4. Change the direction of an imaginary camera
One of the problems with shyness is that we focus a camera on ourselves. We believe that everyone is interested in us. But, as Deschâtelets says, “people watch and analyze us much less than we tend to think. By focusing an imaginary camera on the people we meet or even on the place where we are, we can stop focusing on ourselves and our discomfort.
5. A microphone
You can also replace this imaginary camera with a microphone (also imaginary). You direct this microphone towards the person you are talking to: you ask a question, you get an answer that you listen to, you ask another question… It is a question of focusing your attention on the other person. A benefit: you will please the person you are with by being interested in him/her.
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